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Men Working to End Battering, Rape & Sexism

The resources here explore information about men who are working, both individually and collectively, to reduce the violence of men. The overwhelming majority of violence against women is committed by men. The following resources try to raise awareness in men about the problem's of men's violence - and end their silence about it. Because the vast majority of violence against men is also committed by other men, some of the sites below explore problems with masculinity and how to find ways of 'being a man' without being violent or homophobic. 

Rapists are not born, they are made. And the culture which makes 'them' also makes 'us'. The question of why (some) men rape is thus connected to the question of why sexual violence is tolerated. This connection exists at a double intersection: between attitudes and actions, between violence and notions of masculinity. We are all connected to these intersections because this is where we have grown up as men.

from  Men's Responsibility for Rape

White Ribbon Campaign: Men Working to End Men's Violence Against Women. Great starter page for asking questions about violence against women; 'Information and Education Kit' is recommended. 

Working with Men and Boys to Prevent Gender-Based Violence: Recommended Work Plan (10 lessons with readings from the Family Violence Prevention Fund)

Men Can Stop Rape (formerly Men's Rape Prevention Project) seeks to redefine masculinity, raise awareness in male youth about rape supportive attitudes, and promote gender equality by building on men's capacity to be strong without violence. Website covers homophobia, male survivors of sexual assault, re-examines the meaning of being a 'real man' and recognizes how current forms of masculinity negatively affect men and women. Website has printable fact sheets, state by state contact information for men against violence, and links.  

A Call to Men aims to shift social norms that define manhood, galvanize a national movement of men, and re-educate men through a process that challenges sexism. See 10 Things Men Can Do

Profeminist.org information on gender construction, heterosexism, feminism, capitalism, and patriarchy. Good collection of links and a gender news network with updates on about women, gay and gender rights issues.

National Organization of Men Against Sexism: NOMAS advocates a perspective that is pro-feminist, gay-affirmative, anti-racist, and committed to justice on a broad range of social issues including class, age, religion, and physical abilities.

Men For Change is male positive, pro-feminist, gay affirmative, anti-racist group promoting healthy and nurturing masculinity. Major sections of the website include personal growth, political action, women's stories and publications. Also, check out Men's Net and Men Against Violence Webring, which has a list of links about men, violence and social change. Men Against Domestic Violence also has a helpful collection of links. 

Pip Cornall.com - sustainable masculinity, which he "which I believes draws attention to the urgent need to design male norms which are appropriate to the goals of equitable democracy and humans rights; in short male norms which are sustainable given the current challenges of the nuclear/technological age.

Men Against Sexual Assault educational information to debunk myths, provide statistics, information about the after-effects of sexual assault, and ways to locate the laws of your state. Try taking their quiz to test your knowledge and find out more about what men can do. 

xy: men, masculinities and gender politics. XY starts from the belief that many of our society's attitudes about masculinity are harmful to men and boys in a variety of ways, as well as being oppressive to women and children. XY is a forum for men who are seeking to build life-affirming, joyful, and non-oppressive ways of being. see Men Stopping Violence: Men’s collective anti-violence activism and the struggle for gender justice

Men Stopping Violence.org - strong points of the site are information for abused women, men who are (or potentially are) abusers, legal and criminal justice professionals, and mental health professional. Some, but not all, of the other information and ways to get involved are for the local, Atlanta (Georgia USA) community. 

Blain Nelson describes himself as a recovering abuser and this website is to help in his recovery. He includes checklists to help identify abusers and victims, advice, an extensive listing of books, links and stories (including both his and his wife's).

Transcending Gender won the award for best legal blog about gender. It's content covers more than just legal issues and it has a variety of good links. 

From Aug 18, 2006: Taking the “sissy” out of him results in toddler’s death

Teaching a three-year-old boy to be “a soldier” and not a “sissy” proved to be a fatal lesson for Mikey Vallejo-Seiber. In a preliminary hearing, Judge Elisabeth Sichel ruled that there was sufficient evidence to try Alex Mendoza for first-degree murder in the death of his former girlfriend’s child.

“Children pay a high price when parents and caregivers insist on raising boys to be ‘real men’ or girls to be ‘little ladies.’ The cost was tragic in this case,” said Taneika Taylor, Director of GenderPAC’s Children As They Are program.

Mendoza, who was openly critical of Mikey’s upbringing, attempted to “toughen up” the toddler by calling him a “sissy” who needed to be toughened up, slapping him, and urging him to beat up his Elmo doll, according to the toddler’s mother. The three-year-old died in the hospital after suffering massive internal injuries from being kicked, punched, and dropped on the head while in Mendoza’s care.

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Transcending Gender Blog

Thanks to the students of Paul's Fall 2000 Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault class for collecting these resources and descriptions.
Excellent Link Collection at the VA Dept of Health

Recommended Books

Boyhood, Growing Up Male: A Multicultural Anthology by Michael Kimmel

Also by Michael Kimmel:

Unexpected Allies: Men Who Stop Rape by Todd Denny (excerpt from Ch 1 and ordering info)

Are We Not Men? Masculine Anxiety and the Problem of African-American Identity
by Phillip Brian Harper

The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and and How All Men Can Help by Jackson Katz

Links from TakethePledge.gov - government website has no content of its own about why to pledge not to use violence

In case you're unclear on what the problem is ...

The following picture is more graphic and offend some readers. If the photo isn't appropriate, check out In Their Own Words: Men Trivializing Rape from Adonis Journal: A Pro-Feminist Journal.

The 'joke' reveals the problematic sense of entitlement to sexual access and the lack of concern about consent. Further, if this exploitation is the 'American way,' then perpetrators will see little harm in using date rape drugs and getting a victim unconscious. 

Picture found on usenet group, but for excellent analysis see genderads.com: Ads, Education & Activism



Gay & Lesbian Community Center of South Florida has some information on abusive relationships; it covers the profiles of batterer and battered, the cycle of violence, and 10 'rules' for ending it. See also Heterosexual Privilege


Dads and Daughters - make the world safe and fair for our daughters

Male victims of domestic violence - Professor Michael Kimmel offers a substantive and methodological review of claims of 'gender symmetry' in domestic violence.

Achilles Heel: Radical Men's Magazine


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